• Jay EuDaly

India

Updated: Jun 11, 2019

It has occurred to me that the record of the 2019 trip to India to receive my adopted grandson Dax is preserved mostly on FaceBook. Do I trust FaceBook? No. Everything on the internet can be deleted. FaceBook seems permanent now but in a few years (or months!) it could be an anachronism. When FaceBook goes down where will all the pictures, posts, and memories be? Gone forever.


So I copied all the posts and pictures from my FaceBook page to this blog. I copied only the comments that served some educational, humorous or narrative purpose; therefore most of the comments are not preserved. Posting the names of those who commented without their permission didn't feel right, even though FaceBook is a public forum. Therefore I did not identify the author of any comment other than myself, or immediate family members. Also, there are a couple of pictures that were not on my FaceBook feed but are from my personal texts.


April 16, 2019

Goodbye, Kansas City. Hello, Toronto. #masterguitar #masterguitarschool

Kansas City

Toronto

April 17, 2019

Goodbye, Toronto. Hello, Frankfurt. #masterguitar #masterguitarschool

Toronto

Frankfurt

April 18, 2019

Jay EuDaly is in Bangalore, India.

Good morning, Bangalore. That was an interesting ride last night. #masterguitar #masterguitarschool #indiaisatrip

Bangalore

April 18, 2019

Alex DeGrassi’s “Slow Circle” is playing in the hotel restaurant in Bangalore. I love music! #indiaisatrip

Hotel Restaurant in Bangalore

April 18, 2019

#indiaisatrip

Hotel room bathroom in Bangalore

Comments:

  • Seems worse than a Korean hooker

  • I love India through the eyes of Jay


April 18, 2019

This is in our room:


April 18, 2019

This is why I’m in India! This is my youngest son Nathan and his wife Allie. They are now officially the parents of Dax Shreyas EuDaly, who is now my 11th grandchild. #indiaisatrip

April 18, 2019

Receiving Dax from the orphanage. #indiaisatrip

April 19, 2019

Jay EuDaly is in Devanhalli.

Gee I hope this is the right line. #indiaisatrip

Comments:

  • Looks like the Brooklyn DMV.

April 19, 2019

Had to turn down a gig for tomorrow night in Davenport Iowa because I can’t get there in time. #indiaisatrip

Comments:

  • Too bad, Jay. Iowans need your music!

  • I'll cover. Do you think they will like Bad, Bad Leroy Brown?

  • Have been to Davenport many times. It is their loss for sure.

April 19, 2019

Jay EuDaly is with Allie EuDaly and Nathan Elliot EuDaly at Kempegowda International Airport Lounge, Bengaluru.

Leaving Bangalore for Delhi shortly. #indiaisatrip

April 19, 2019

Goodbye, Bangalore. Hello, Delhi! I said, Hello, Delhi! #indiaisatrip

Bangalore

Delhi

April 19, 2019

Jay EuDaly is in Delhi, India.

Dax’s 1st plane ride. He did pretty good! #indiaisatrip


April 19, 2019

This brings Andrea to mind - though she is never far. This was at the airport in Delhi. #indiaisatrip


April 19, 2019

This was a dance for us at the orphanage. As you can see, it's a walled compound and is pretty nice compared to its surroundings. The guy by the car is one of our drivers. There will be another post about that later. The badassery of the drivers is amazing to behold. In the meantime, this thing of beauty: #indiaisatrip


April 19, 2019

Jay EuDaly shared a post.

From Dax’s mama:


Allie EuDaly is with Nathan Elliot EuDaly.April 19


Our hearts are bursting 🖤 And sweet baby boy is doing so well 🖤

He loves the bath, eats and sleeps like a champ, and is curious about e v e r y t h i n g.

The things that are really hard so far are that he is legitimately claustrophobic (hates elevators, public bathrooms, and wasn’t a fan of the plane [from Bangalore to Delhi] for awhile)...and he is starting to grieve the loss of the caretakers and home he has known for the last 14 months 🖤(obviously being removed from everything familiar and coming with new people to new places and everything else involved is traumatic - and my heart is so indescribably heavy for him). Thankfully, he feels safe enough with us that he allows us to comfort him when he is upset. Also, almost all of our time is able to be spent engaging in play and other attachment-building activities, so we are filling up our trust bank as fast as we can. 🖤

He is crazy smart, very vocal (he has been spoken to in three languages his whole life but they said so far he prefers to make up his own words 😂), and can take about 2-3 steps by himself! (and is so proud of himself every time). 🖤

We are so in love. 🖤 Thank you for all the kind words and prayers, friends 🖤 We should be home by May 1st 🖤 #lovingeudaly #babydax


Comments:

  • Love. And the tip of an iceberg of a life rescued. A tremendous testament and it so, so, so matters. Be blessed. Dax welcome to America and your new life.

  • Jay EuDaly Dax was premature and abandoned. He has some medical issues but my daughter-in-law is a pediatric intensive care nurse at Children’s Mercy and so is equipped as anyone could be to deal with it.

  • My dearest friend fostered a baby boy that had been abandoned. He was just weeks old when they brought him into their home. They fell in love with him and couldn’t bear to let him have someone else “leave” him. They adopted him. That was 7 years ago, and he’s thriving! So hearing about your new grandbaby makes my heart so very happy ❤️


April 19, 2019

Jay EuDaly is in Delhi, India.

Good morning, Delhi! I slept from midnight to 6:00. I think I’m starting to get over the jet lag. We’re going to be here a while, jumping through the last few hoops to be able to bring Dax home. So I’m hoping to settle in and get reasonably comfortable. I’ve had some trouble with Instagram and also with texting. Facebook seems to be the most reliable so this is where I’m going to be from now on. #indiaisatrip

Delhi

Comments:

  • How is the air? Doesn't look too good in this picture.

  • Jay EuDaly It alternates between “unhealthy” and “dangerous.”


April 19, 2019

I perceive a market for Jazz here. I’m eating breakfast in Delhi and so far on the Muzak I’ve heard real jazz; Kenny Burrell, Groove Holmes, Jimmy Smith...what a wonderful thing to be so far from home and hear Hammond Organ-based Jazz. #indiaisatrip


Comments:

  • I hope you have a chance to hear some of the locals while you are there. Some amazing music. I got to see Ravi Shankar in Bangalore in 2011. Good luck with the jet lag coming back!

  • Jay EuDaly I’m planning on trying to find local music while I’m here.

  • I’m assuming that of course you took your guitar along. Can’t imagine you without it for longer than a couple hours.

  • Jay EuDaly no, it’s too much of a hassle to fly with it if I don’t have a gig. We have enough to worry about. I’ve got several days to get back in shape before my fist gig back in KC.


April 19, 2019

Ok, I think this is probably for the sake of us westerners but I’ll check it out anyway. Maybe I can connect with one of these musicians and find out where the REAL music is. #indiaisatrip



April 19, 2019

This was our contact with the orphanage, Alex. Alex was responsible for procuring our drivers. The next few pics are typical street scenes on the way to the orphanage. So on our way from the airport to the hotel I learned something. I HAVE NO CLUE ABOUT ANYTHING! My reaction was probably intensified by the fact that we had been travelling for more than 24 hours on no sleep. Anyway, we're in the car with Alex and the driver. It's 4:00 in the morning and we're driving through what I would characterize as horrible slums but which is totally normal here. Piles of rubble, trash, tents, little street front shops, people and motorbikes everywhere. As we pass by a large gathering of men on a corner the driver pulls the car over and says something to Alex. "Crap!" I think, "Is this where the shakedown happens? What's happening?" I could feel my fight-or-flight response starting to kick in and I realized it would have to be fight because I didn't know where to run. The group of men were watching us but didn't approach. I watched Alex and the driver talk back and forth in whatever dialect and Alex did something on his phone, the driver nodded and pulled back out onto the road. I figured either the driver wanted more money or the money had run out and he needed more to continue. The thing is, I had TOTALLY misinterpreted the whole incident. I found out later he had wanted to stop for tea. The last picture is the guard at our hotel. You have to walk through a metal-detector to go into the lobby. #indiaisatrip











April 20, 2019

Welp, I went out alone this morning looking for places to eat. Where. Is. The. BEEF! There isn’t any! God, I want a taco salad so bad. You have to think about water here. Everyone drinks bottled water. Many people have no plumbing - this is how they get water. Apparently the most fascinating thing about me to the locals is my dingo boots. Everybody stared at them. #indiaisatrip



Comments:

  • Uh, Jay.... People here stare at your boots.

  • lol

  • Yes I believe the Hindi people would not tolerate beef being used

  • I think eating beef would offend 80% of the population. So....when in Rome (or India) They may be offended by your leather cowboy boots!

  • Jay EuDaly That had occurred to me earlier. I think I'll wear my tennis shoes from now on. Maybe they weren't fascinated but offended.

  • Jay EuDaly hey, I’m offensive even in my OWN culture!

  • so true! so true!

  • During our excursion in Dominican I was getting hostile stares, realized it was the US flag on my red tee shirt. Stares stopped when I turned it inside out. I felt like I betrayed my country but we were there for E... and A...’s wedding. Peaceful.


April 20, 2019

Ok - I gotta talk about the driving.


First impression; chaotic insanity.


But now I think there's something here that we don't have.


First of all, driving is on the left - probably from English colonial days. But driving on the left is more like "guidelines" rather than hard and fast rule. I haven't seen speed limit signs. The speed is controlled by speed bumps everywhere. NO ONE flies over speed bumps, they slow down to almost nothing and slowly ease up over the bump. Our driver to the orphanage unexpectedly pulled into a gas station but didn't park at the gas pump. Alex wasn't with us and the driver didn't speak English. This time I wasn't worried because I remembered my previous, horrible misjudgment. He aired up the tires. “Of course.” I thought, “That would be a constant issue because of all the speed bumps.”


Secondly, the car horn doesn't express anger - it's used to communicate. I haven't seen anger at all so far. No one gets angry about being cut off. There's very little traffic control and people cut other people off all the time - and they announce it by honking. Coming up on a motor scooter you honk. Scooter moves over. Coming around a slow moving truck you honk. Going around a blind corner you honk. I'm starting to discern messages like, "Hello, I'm going to pass you now" or, "Hello, I am going to cut in front of you now" then from the other, "Ok, you can slip in here." There is no such thing as a required safe distance. Cars, scooters, trucks, lots of little 3-wheeled, open air taxi vehicles and pedestrians consistently miss each other by inches – many times there are 3 lanes of vehicles on a two-lane street and any of the lanes could be going in any direction. Or there are no discernible lanes at all. The kind of thing that would cause a road-rage incident in the US – following too closely, cutting in front of somebody, etc – is routine here and nobody gets angry. They just talk to each other very politely with their horns.


I've realized it's right-brain driving; ebb and flow, multi-tasking, pattern recognition. The drivers are one with their vehicle and with the other drivers. I've written extensively on my blog about the importance of right-brain dominance when it comes to playing music; same thing applied here to driving. I find it fascinating, I think it's badass but to our drivers here it's perfectly normal.


Driving from here to there has been my favorite part of the trip so far. Our driver in Delhi told us,


“To drive in India you need 5 good things; good eyes, good horn, good brakes, good patience and good luck. Luck is the most important thing!”


I want this experience to change the way I look at driving when I get home. Not sure exactly how, but we'll see. I hope it will cause me to be less impatient and less irritated with other drivers. #indiaisatrip

Comments:

  • I feel like this is how D... drives but with no beeping. He’s very right brained, connected and flowing, he never ever gets impatient or angry. He often comments when flow is disrupted on the streets things like, “everyone is out of rhythm right now.”

  • Gas is about $4..50/gallon there. Odd. Much like the driving in the Dominican. It's nuts. Saw family of 6 on a motorcycle.


April 20, 2019

#indiaisatrip